Mother of 3, parent of 2. Reflections on the saddest sorority.

Today is my eldest son’s birthday. It is also the anniversary of his death. It is a complicated story. I had triplets and then my membranes broke at 22 1/2 weeks. My first son’s death was foretold before his first breath. A real life fairy tale curse. I knew I had no magic to break […]

An artificial womb may one day help preemies, but not for many years. Why the hype?

The news has been all over a study on premature fetal lambs being maintained in a Biobag (i.e. outside of the uterus) and growing and developing normally. This technology is specifically being developed with extremely premature infants in mind, the kind of babies who are just a week or two away from survival. Babies who […]

If Purvi Patel delivered in hospital she could have declined neonatal care, but she delivered at home so faces jail

Purvi Patel faces 70 years in jail for delivering a premature baby at home and believing her fetus was stillborn. She was found guilty of feticide and neglect. I want to put these frightening abuses of her legal rights aside for a moment… The fact that she was questioned immediately after an anesthetic. We don’t […]

The US is still a leader in infant mortality, so where are the pro-life politicians?

The infant mortality statistics are out again. This always depresses me because: A) The rates are atrociously high and B) There is so much legislation passed to restrict abortion in the name of “life,” but politicians and judges seems awfully silent on infant mortality. In the United States 6.4 infants out of every 1,000 born […]

A friend delivered twins early. One is in the NICU, one died. What can I say or do?

This question was sent to me via Twitter. The person who added my name to the tweet knew that I might have something to offer because 10 years ago I was that friend. I entered the hospital with ruptured membranes at 22 1/2 weeks, pregnant with triplets. My son Aidan died at birth and my […]

In praise of Kangaroo Care for premature babies

Today is Kangaroo Care awareness day. Kangaroo care (KC) is the practice of skin-to-skin contact with a premature baby and parent. In low and middle-income countries, where there are fewer medical resources, Kangaroo Care has been shown to reduce mortality among premature babies and shorten the length of hospital stay. Kangaroo Care is also very […]

The physical dangers for mothers who deliver prematurely

Mothers who deliver prematurely face serious health risks that are often neglected when we talk about prematurity. Today, in honor of Savita Halappanavar’s death from sepsis that was a direct result of her previable premature delivery, I would like to let the world in on the physical perils faced by mothers who deliver prematurely. Many […]

What world pneumonia day means to me

I am not a fan of awareness months. The campaigns go on too long and frankly, the pinking of October (or greening, or whatever color has captivated Madison avenue) leaves me feeling like diseases are part of a company’s portfolio. I also don’t appreciate being harassed every time I swipe my credit card at Safeway […]

The Duggar’s Russian roulette with prematurity

Michelle Duggar is pregnant again. Number 20. Perhaps ratings were slumping for their “reality” show? I use the term reality loosely, because a family with 19 children is not reality for anyone. While TLC likes to call themselves the ‘Family, Home, Style, Cooking network,” (you know, crock pots and crafts), TLC is really code for […]