I’m 50 today. This is what I know.

I’m 50 today. Here are some very important life lessons I’ve learned along the way. If you find a comfortable bra that fits buy three or four (or as many as you can afford). The joy of a well-fitted and comfortable bra can’t be overstated. If you buy enough when they get all stretchy (i.e. they […]

My wedding dress was living rent free in my head, so I turned it into a Cinderella gown for Halloween

My wedding dress was living rent free in my head and my house for 13 years. It is a gorgeous designer confection with yards of the softest silk. I’m embarrassed to say what I paid for it, but it supports my theory that when deep down you think your relationship isn’t quite right and you […]

Want to take flibanserin (Addyi) for low sex drive? You can’t drink alcohol. Ever.

Flibanserin, the drug for hypoactive sexual desire disorder in women (a condition that many argue doesn’t exist as for many women sexual desire is responsive, not spontaneous) has been approved by the FDA and will be sold under the brand name Addyi. I’m underwhelmed and concerned about flibanserin for a variety of reasons, but I […]

What to tell a partner who wants you to remove your pubic hair

A divorced friend of mine who recently started dating was shocked to find that the complete absence of female pubic hair seemed to be an expectation among her potential partners. I’m not surprised, when I was in the dating pool a couple of years back there were men who actually listed full clamscaping required among […]

Male GYNO claims to find G-spot in a dead woman. Female GYNO found it years ago in a living one.

An article was just published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine in which a male “cosmetic” gynecologist claims to have found the G spot by dissecting the cadaver of an 83-year-old woman and the news media have flocked to the story. The amazing Dr. Petra Boynton does a wonderful job of looking at the bias and back […]

The neurochemistry of love: put your passion to the test

According to functional MRI scanners, love isn’t an emotion it is activation of the reward center (it’s all about the forebrain, baby). And new love (the first 7 months to be precise) produces a similar chemical response to opioids. I suppose it’s not a surprise, after all poets and song writers have described the euphoria […]

What I learned from my readers in 2011, why bad sex is like turkey bacon, and sharing is caring

In 2011 over 140,000 people viewed my bog. Pretty cool. A lot of people found me via reddit, stumbleupon, twitter, and Facebook. Thank you to everyone who posted and reposted. I am thrilled to think that anything I wrote was interesting/entertaining/informative enough to pass along. People also came via searches. The most popular search terms […]

A gynecologist’s advice for men on a first date

In honor of my new smoking hot red patent leather go-go boots I am introducing a series of posts entitled the Red Boot Diaries. Think of them as GYNO dating tips, because I care deeply about you all and hope that you might one day profit from my mistakes wealth of experience. And a big thanks to […]

One of the biggest relationship red flags: the “If only you…”

Recently I have had cause to reflect on my relationship mistakes. What bothers me the most about my marriage was my wanton disregard for a key relationship red flag: the “If only you…” You know what I mean. Those 3 words slipped casually into a conversation (because that hurts so much less) that represent the […]